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When you show up at the park for the first time with your little ones spilling out of the van, scan the swing set for anyone you might recognize, and notice that all the other moms are already hanging out in pairs, you realize that your awkward adventure of finding mom friends has only just begun. Too many women are frazzled and lonely, isolated in their minivans while sch When you show up at the park for the first time with your little ones spilling out of the van, scan the swing set for anyone you might recognize, and notice that all the other moms are already hanging out in pairs, you realize that your awkward adventure of finding mom friends has only just begun. Too many women are frazzled and lonely, isolated in their minivans while schlepping bags, strollers, and munchkins to and fro across town. It doesn't have to be this way. In this hilarious yet thought-provoking guide to momlationships, blogger Melanie Dale uses a dating analogy to help women get more intentional about bonding with each other. We are better together, she writes. We make each other better moms, better humans. We need each other, because mothering is just too darn hard. Moms will discover how to make sure their kids aren't the only ones having fun, develop lifelong friendships, share their burdens, and join together to impact communities around the world.


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When you show up at the park for the first time with your little ones spilling out of the van, scan the swing set for anyone you might recognize, and notice that all the other moms are already hanging out in pairs, you realize that your awkward adventure of finding mom friends has only just begun. Too many women are frazzled and lonely, isolated in their minivans while sch When you show up at the park for the first time with your little ones spilling out of the van, scan the swing set for anyone you might recognize, and notice that all the other moms are already hanging out in pairs, you realize that your awkward adventure of finding mom friends has only just begun. Too many women are frazzled and lonely, isolated in their minivans while schlepping bags, strollers, and munchkins to and fro across town. It doesn't have to be this way. In this hilarious yet thought-provoking guide to momlationships, blogger Melanie Dale uses a dating analogy to help women get more intentional about bonding with each other. We are better together, she writes. We make each other better moms, better humans. We need each other, because mothering is just too darn hard. Moms will discover how to make sure their kids aren't the only ones having fun, develop lifelong friendships, share their burdens, and join together to impact communities around the world.

30 review for Women are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends

  1. 4 out of 5

    Meredith

    I think I am too advanced in my parenting years to fully appreciated this book. I became a mother at 23, when most of my friends were either still in college or just wrapping up their formal education. When I took my kids to the park or the library, I was the youngest parent by several years. This did not make for "mommy bonding." Even now, when I'm friends with many parents who have kids the same age as my teens, I'm still the "young one" compared to most (which, frankly, is kind of awesome whe I think I am too advanced in my parenting years to fully appreciated this book. I became a mother at 23, when most of my friends were either still in college or just wrapping up their formal education. When I took my kids to the park or the library, I was the youngest parent by several years. This did not make for "mommy bonding." Even now, when I'm friends with many parents who have kids the same age as my teens, I'm still the "young one" compared to most (which, frankly, is kind of awesome when your 40th birthday is closer than you want to admit). My foray into the parenting world has been a mix between hanging out and learning from parents who have years of life experience on me, or trying to relate to my college and high school friends raising preschoolers. In some ways, though, I'm glad I did it this way because the Mama Drama Melanie Dale writes about it just too much. I'm all for forming friendships with other mothers, but does it really take so much effort that we should approach it like dating? I've met some incredible parents through school events, extracurricular activities, volunteering, killing time in the school parking lot, etc. I've also met parents I knew right away I would not have anything in common with and that's OK. (Well, maybe it wasn't that one time I texted my husband from a PTA event that I felt like the girl in middle school who didn't have anyone to sit with at lunch. But I'm over it now. Really.) Dale is right when she writes that navigating friendships as a parent is tricky. My advice for moms searching for mom friends? Limit the amount of parenting talk you do. Every child is different. What works on one kid won't work on another. Not every part of your parenting philosophy will mesh. Instead of letting that destroy what could be a great friendship, focus on each other, not your offspring. After all, mothers deserve to have a life, too.

  2. 4 out of 5

    Kimberly Thompson

    Disclaimer: I am friends with the author. Truth: I loved this book. It's hilarious and oh so honest and a good read. Melanie knows women are scary. They are intimidating and mean and callous. And they're all afraid of each other. But we shouldn't be and she points out ways to make friends and put yourself out there in her book. She goes over the four bases of dating, a baseball reference that she admittedly doesn't really get, but nonetheless fits her analogy. She references science fiction movi Disclaimer: I am friends with the author. Truth: I loved this book. It's hilarious and oh so honest and a good read. Melanie knows women are scary. They are intimidating and mean and callous. And they're all afraid of each other. But we shouldn't be and she points out ways to make friends and put yourself out there in her book. She goes over the four bases of dating, a baseball reference that she admittedly doesn't really get, but nonetheless fits her analogy. She references science fiction movies and TV to her nerdy heart's content and throws in a few book quotes too. While she's a Christian and has a few Bible verses, she isn't pushing an agenda on you. Melanie writes with a genuine heart for women and just wants to share what she's learned over the years since becoming a mom in a way that makes you feel included. She even gives you a full frontal hug from the opening pages.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Chantel

    I follow Melanie's blog (www.unexpected.org), so like thousands of other women who read the post that inspired this book, I knew Women are Scary would be both poignant and hilarious--poignant because she speaks truth and hilarious because, well, she's Melanie Dale. She likens finding mom friends to the traditional dating metaphor of rounding the bases on the baseball field. Melanie encourages women to embrace their inadequacies, even while forgiving those of the other women in our lives. She's t I follow Melanie's blog (www.unexpected.org), so like thousands of other women who read the post that inspired this book, I knew Women are Scary would be both poignant and hilarious--poignant because she speaks truth and hilarious because, well, she's Melanie Dale. She likens finding mom friends to the traditional dating metaphor of rounding the bases on the baseball field. Melanie encourages women to embrace their inadequacies, even while forgiving those of the other women in our lives. She's transparent about her own weaknesses and in the process shows us all how to make them work to our advantage. In my own life, I felt the most isolated in terms of my friendships when my kids were very young. I wasn't working, and my four small children were very demanding. Getting out proved difficult, if not impossible, most days. I had to learn how to be intentional with relationships, and mostly just get over myself. I wish I would have had a book like this to reassure me that I wasn't alone and that there were other women out there just like me! The Women are Scary book outlines some practical steps for forging meaningful relationships. It even includes real stories from real women from all over the country. Finding mom friends is an adventure, and it doesn't have to be awkward. It might be a little scary, but only because we remember how friendship used to come so naturally and now that we're older and our lives are busy, it just takes more work. I read this book in two days, laughing out loud over and over again. You will especially enjoy this book if you are a new mom or a working mom or a mom who just wants to develop deeper relationships with the people she already knows and loves. It's not all sunshine and roses, though. There's also a chapter on breaking up, which is never easy, but sometimes necessary. As an added bonus, Melanie includes ways to engage with the broader community to make the world a sweeter place to live. Read the book, and discover that women are anything BUT scary.

  4. 4 out of 5

    Nicole Smith

    This book totally surprised me! I thought the cover was funny so I grabbed it off the library shelf on my way out (always risky). I debated reading it because I don't really have problems making friends and consider myself an outgoing person. But I was drawn in from the first couple pages by her writing style, love of God, amazing one liners, and hilariousness. Seriously such a funny book. It made me think more about the friendships I have, the ones I wish I had, and what I was going to do about This book totally surprised me! I thought the cover was funny so I grabbed it off the library shelf on my way out (always risky). I debated reading it because I don't really have problems making friends and consider myself an outgoing person. But I was drawn in from the first couple pages by her writing style, love of God, amazing one liners, and hilariousness. Seriously such a funny book. It made me think more about the friendships I have, the ones I wish I had, and what I was going to do about it. It made me realize that we can never have enough 'momlationships' and need them as much as we need anything else. They really help us be better mothers as we create safe places and communities of love. It's important for our emotional health and it's important for our kids to see us socialize. And it makes life more fun! A great read. I would recommend this to anyone, whether you think you need it or not!!

  5. 5 out of 5

    Jenny

    I was disappointed in this book. I thought from reading the excerpt that it had been written by a woman who had experienced difficulties in making other female or mom friends. The author seems to not have any trouble making friends at all. I just didn't feel like it was written by someone who could understand my perspective. I guess I did learn a few things, but it just wasn't exactly what I was looking for.

  6. 4 out of 5

    Sara

    Enjoyed Dale’s sense of humor in her writing. I was laughing out loud at times. This book seemed geared more for moms of babies and toddlers, so it didn’t really speak to my current life stage.

  7. 4 out of 5

    Sunflower

    Witty. Filled with catchy cultural references. Insightful. Candor about the difficulty of meeting "Mom Friends". "Women are Scary" dives into the "complicated" world of women/mom friendships in light of a transient society despite the prevalence of social media, making developing new friendships, particularly in the life change of becoming a mom, often seem scary for many women. Just making friends period as a mom or not is a scary enough proposal, unless one is either lucky to have the personality w Witty. Filled with catchy cultural references. Insightful. Candor about the difficulty of meeting "Mom Friends". "Women are Scary" dives into the "complicated" world of women/mom friendships in light of a transient society despite the prevalence of social media, making developing new friendships, particularly in the life change of becoming a mom, often seem scary for many women. Just making friends period as a mom or not is a scary enough proposal, unless one is either lucky to have the personality where no one is a stranger, have grown up with a long term friendship or through work or school, have the opportunity to make friends, but for many, navigating this road is often filled with drama, misunderstandings or in some cases, non-opportunities. Now the traditional suggestions have always been, go to the park, go to the library, volunteer, but it's often taking things to the next level of just saying "hi" to actually beginning the steps to finding friends that is difficult for many to sometimes overcome. In comes Melanie Dales book, "Women Are Scary"; A book that is filled with chapter headings such as: "A Complete Lobotomy of the Heart", "Trolling for Moms", "Wield Your Weirdness Like a Boss", you can easily tell this book was written for moms....or moms that are just plain weird. No, don't worry, it's written for all moms who have found themselves faced with the ultimate challenge: interacting with other women. Written by a Christian, Melanie Dale, fills the book with personal anecdotes, encouraging Scripture that is a reminder of how we are to interact with others and a very upbeat, cheerful voice to help the discouraged mom know that not only is she not alone, but there is hope when it comes to interacting with other moms and well, just women. There's thirty-two chapters, broken up into 5 parts, making up a total of 240 pages, but don't pass out thinking this is going to be a boring reading. "Women are Scary" is a great mix of humor, encouragement, serious insight (but not too serious that doesn't make this book more academic, but rather a "Yes, I totally can relate to that, thank you so much for sharing")work that helps encourage the discouraged in all of us that finds ourselves in situations, maybe we are a first time mom, we have had to move for the uptenth time,whatever is the reason and we now find ourselves eyeing a book, whose title beckons us to read and navigated the sometimes not so fun adventure of trying to make friends. The book reminds me a bit of the movie,"Moms Night Out", but for the mom whose looking to find her friends that she can have a "Moms Night Out" with or at least another adult that she can be herself and talk with and gets where she is coming or going. Melody offers down to earth insights that range for instance from how to meet moms, in the chapter, "Trolling for Moms" "...figure out who your people are,then start trolling", to how to have small talk if you happen to be allergic to small talk. The illustrations that are found throughout the book are cute and honestly hilarious that any mom could relate to in some form or way. At the very end, she offers resources for moms that are worth checking out and I really like how in the chapter, "The Mother Network", Melanie talks about the importance of developing a support system to be like a rah-rah cheerleading team for each other. At the end of the day, any type of friendship takes a lot of heart, humility and work. It can be done and it's always possible no matter what stage of life one is in at that moment. "Women are Scary" was a great read that I would recommend to first time moms who may find themselves in a new town or just wanting to connect with other moms and don't know how, maybe you are in a new stage of life and finding yourself having to start over, no matter what it is, this is a book to take the time to read. You will laugh. You will cry. You will find yourself going, "This.Is.So.Me". It is a book every mom, no matter where she is in life, should read.

  8. 5 out of 5

    Virginia Garrett

    bookcover-flatAs long as there have been women writing books there have been books about the friendships of women. Dee Brestin wrote one a number of years ago, Lisa Whelchel wrote one a few years ago. I've read most of them. I've learned from them too. None of them have impacted me like Women are Scary by Melanie Dale. Melanie Dale. I had never heard of her before seeing this book. Intrigued by the title, I picked it up. And honestly, I thought it would be another one of those books. You know the bookcover-flatAs long as there have been women writing books there have been books about the friendships of women. Dee Brestin wrote one a number of years ago, Lisa Whelchel wrote one a few years ago. I've read most of them. I've learned from them too. None of them have impacted me like Women are Scary by Melanie Dale. Melanie Dale. I had never heard of her before seeing this book. Intrigued by the title, I picked it up. And honestly, I thought it would be another one of those books. You know the ones, books that lead you to believe the whole world has this figured out and you're the only flunky. I could not have possibly been more wrong. I LOVE this book. Note the use of the present tense verb, I love this book. Present. I will come back to this over and over because in the pages of this book I found a new best friend. We can just forget that she has no idea who I am, just like I had no idea who she was and that I live in the plain states and she lives in the South. I felt my spirit mesh with her. I found myself repeating "oh my! Me too!" Women are Scary is a book about Momlationships. We all have them. We all need them. We all crave them. Yet, we're all unsure how to pursue them. And is it really okay to pursue and date other moms? Really! In this book, you will laugh. You will cry. You will shout, "ME TOO!!!" You will relate. You'll find yourself hungry for more momlationships. You'll gain the courage needed to reach out to other women. You'll gain ideas for deepening friendships. I can not begin to recommend this book enough. I just can't. I was in our bookstore over the weekend and found myself gushing over it to two of the ladies working there. Gushing. Telling them repeatedly how much they needed to read this book. It is full of life stories, silliness, and truth. It has practical advice, advice you would seek out from a best friend. Melanie doesn't pull any punches, but she speaks with grace and a whole lotta humor. So visit her web page linked up there, visit amazon.com or your local Christian bookstore and get this book. You'll thank me and you'll gain a brand new best friend. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKnlV... I received a free copy of this book from the publisher for the purpose of review. All opinions are my own.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Amy

    I found out about this book from my alma mater's magazine. Melanie Dale just so happens to have graduated from the same college I went to and was featured in the magazine. Denison has many things to be proud of and Melanie is a great addition. This book has so many references in it that I can relate to about making mom friends and the way in which Dale writes cuts straight to the chase and really brings out her quirky personality, nerdy and sometimes gross references. I felt like I knew her by t I found out about this book from my alma mater's magazine. Melanie Dale just so happens to have graduated from the same college I went to and was featured in the magazine. Denison has many things to be proud of and Melanie is a great addition. This book has so many references in it that I can relate to about making mom friends and the way in which Dale writes cuts straight to the chase and really brings out her quirky personality, nerdy and sometimes gross references. I felt like I knew her by the end of the book and could call her up and talk to her about my child or anything else for that matter. She makes references to bases when explaining the steps of "momlationships" from 1st to 4th. (She admits she is the least athletic person she knows and that there is no 4th base in baseball but she made it her own!). Each base has its own set of rules and There are references to the bible as well but they are not shoved down your throat nor do they feel preachy. If anything they are incredibly appropriate and are good bits of advice no matter what religion you may follow. There is one quote that I really like because it is something I have to deal with as an army wife. "I learned to beware the super good listener who soaks up all your details but doesn't reciprocate. Vulnerability is a two-way street." The chapters are nice and short and made for great reading while nursing. The author herself even told me in an email that she had that in mind when writing the book which was awesome not only because she responded to my email but because it made the reading experience that much better. I didn't want the book to end but fortunately, Melanie Dale writes regularly on her own blog and on other blogs too. I highly recommend this book to all the moms out there looking for a good fast read. You are bound to relate to at least a few things she mentions.

  10. 4 out of 5

    Laura W

    Women are Scary is about how to make friends as a mom. Melanie Dale shows the stages of female friendship ("bases"), with tips on when and how to move onto the next "base". She shares stories along the way that are relatable and usually hilarious to illustrate her points. She is honest about how sometimes relationships fizzle out in first or second-base, and how a third or fourth-base relationship break can be painful and heart-breaking. Included are tips on how to survive a break-up, heal from Women are Scary is about how to make friends as a mom. Melanie Dale shows the stages of female friendship ("bases"), with tips on when and how to move onto the next "base". She shares stories along the way that are relatable and usually hilarious to illustrate her points. She is honest about how sometimes relationships fizzle out in first or second-base, and how a third or fourth-base relationship break can be painful and heart-breaking. Included are tips on how to survive a break-up, heal from the past, and try again. Bible verses are sprinkled throughout to back-up her perspective, and movie quotes kick-off each chapter. I loved this book. I read it in 2 days, and laughed out loud at least once per chapter, and sometimes multiple times a page. I could totally relate to her weirdness and sense of humor, as well as her oversharing tendencies, infertility struggles, and desire to save the world, one orphan at a time. I appreciated her honest struggles in making friends, the great tips for how to meet moms and how to recover from failures. More than anything, I was thankful for the laughs, and felt like she and I could be fourth-basers, if we only lived in the same area. I began to think of the women in my life, and what base we are on, and which ones I might be able to take to the next level, and which ones I might just need to let die a natural death. I thought about which friendships we could make couple friendships with, or at least give it a shot. I recommend this book to any mom who has trouble with friendships or needs a good laugh. I'm pretty sure that if you are a mom that you would fit into at least one of those categories, so check it out!

  11. 5 out of 5

    Elizabeth

    Women Are Scary by Melanie Dale focuses on the totally awkward adventure of finding mom friends. It started off so promising. Sentences jumped out at me. Learning how to bless each other and not destroy each other. All of us come to motherhood by different paths and choose different methods. Some things we choose and some things are chosen for us. The humor was funny. Much like my own. But then it seems that Melanie tries too hard to bring the humor and it become more awkward than funny. "By third b Women Are Scary by Melanie Dale focuses on the totally awkward adventure of finding mom friends. It started off so promising. Sentences jumped out at me. Learning how to bless each other and not destroy each other. All of us come to motherhood by different paths and choose different methods. Some things we choose and some things are chosen for us. The humor was funny. Much like my own. But then it seems that Melanie tries too hard to bring the humor and it become more awkward than funny. "By third base, I'm full-frontal hugging, so prepare for that. If you're my third-base friend, get ready for our boobs smashed up together while I ask how you're doing right in your ear." Funny, or over the top? I honestly couldn't tell if this was meant to be a comedic tale on finding mom friends or an actual how to book on the subject. I stopped reading mid-way as it no longer held my interest. This book was sent to me by BookLook Bloggers in exchange for my honest opinion. See my whole review at http://www.trenchesofmommyhood.blogsp...

  12. 5 out of 5

    Noelle Kelly

    I know you are wondering how I even get to read right? Well, I have been MORE intentional about reading books that pertain to my life or that are edifying because, goodness, I need to feed this brain of mine, you know? While I might not get the chance to read something in a day or two, I make an effort to read a chapter a night or a good portion before going to sleep instead of watching to television One of the new books I recently finished is called Women Are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure I know you are wondering how I even get to read right? Well, I have been MORE intentional about reading books that pertain to my life or that are edifying because, goodness, I need to feed this brain of mine, you know? While I might not get the chance to read something in a day or two, I make an effort to read a chapter a night or a good portion before going to sleep instead of watching to television One of the new books I recently finished is called Women Are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends by Melanie Dale. I was SO intrigued by the title and loved the cover picture that I knew I needed to finish this book especially when I found out that the author is a blogger herself. Continued here: http://singerskitchen.com/2015/03/wom...

  13. 4 out of 5

    Tiffany

    Didn't love this book. We are reading this for book club, otherwise I may have never picked it up. I have friends that have absolutely loved it, so there is certainly that potential. The author provides 4 "bases" of "momlationships". Kind of like dating, but with other moms. I just couldn't really relate with the author. Maybe if I was more like her? There were moments I nodded my head and agreed, but never the out-loud laughing I had been promised. Does this change how I view relationships with Didn't love this book. We are reading this for book club, otherwise I may have never picked it up. I have friends that have absolutely loved it, so there is certainly that potential. The author provides 4 "bases" of "momlationships". Kind of like dating, but with other moms. I just couldn't really relate with the author. Maybe if I was more like her? There were moments I nodded my head and agreed, but never the out-loud laughing I had been promised. Does this change how I view relationships with other moms? Not really. Wish I could review it otherwise.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Kathryn

    This was pretty easy to read, and, though her humor is exactly the same kind I prefer, it was lighthearted and fun. A lot of what I got out of it seems a little obvious after the fact, but it was all good reminders for me. My major takeaways were: - being yourself is the best way to make genuine friends, even if you feel like you’re weird - giving others the benefit of the doubt is always a good idea - having strong relationships outside of marriage can strengthen you and your marriage - everyone fe This was pretty easy to read, and, though her humor is exactly the same kind I prefer, it was lighthearted and fun. A lot of what I got out of it seems a little obvious after the fact, but it was all good reminders for me. My major takeaways were: - being yourself is the best way to make genuine friends, even if you feel like you’re weird - giving others the benefit of the doubt is always a good idea - having strong relationships outside of marriage can strengthen you and your marriage - everyone feels intimidated and like an outsider sometimes, don’t be afraid to reach out with kindness and don’t be discouraged if someone else isn’t interested - there are lots of ways to make the world a better place through service and donations, and doing service together is a great way to get to know other women - everyone’s kids are badly behaved sometimes - when you feel like falling apart, try pairing a drink, movie, dessert, and scripture together that match your mood (this was random, but also I thought a fun idea to match food + movies + scriptures, haha—now I’m dying to try it!) - look outside the box for ways to get to know other moms, like lunch meetups, walks, grocery shopping, service activities, etc. Overall, I got some good reminders out of this book and, though I thought it ran a little long, it inspired me to try to be a better friend, and be better at seeking new friends / deepening friendships I have, which was a good reminder for me :)

  15. 4 out of 5

    Jen

    Momlationships for dummies. ❤️ This book was brilliant! It's like momlationships for dummies. Granted, this took me 4 months to read this bc life just got crazy. But i felt like with every chapter i read, it gives me hope that i will find my fourth baser! Seriously though... Finding mom friends is exactly like dating. Haha! Thanks for the wonderful, inspiring and entertaining read!! ❤️❤️

  16. 4 out of 5

    Amy Merritt

    1 star feels pretty cold, but she just went on and on and on. It could have been a blog post, but she turned it into over 30 chapter. Yes. 30. I was so ready for it to be over. She is also probably a very funny outgoing person in real life and she tries really hard to transfer that to her book and it just comes across as trying WAY too hard.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Alex

    What shall I say? The beginning is nice, the first chapters too and in each of the four bases you find funny stories to make you laugh. But it starts to repeat itself really quick and after a certain point I was just reading quickly but not with full attention anymore. I can imagine this as a blog – a sequence every week – but as a book it is not really interesting to read.

  18. 5 out of 5

    Jessica Hermiller

    Nice concept, thought there would be more to it beyond the basics - it would have been nice to see something from a working parent's perspective beyond one chapter. Or having kids earlier/later in life than your peers.

  19. 5 out of 5

    Steph Cherry

    This is a funny book about mom dating. It puts it all in to perspective and helps us deal with life without fear. There are goofy parts and parts with depth. The part about mom breakups hit home. It’s good to know we aren’t alone on this crazy road. It’s an easy read to cheer your mama heart.

  20. 4 out of 5

    Stacy

    Melanie offers many ways to start and build 'momlationships' in a world that can feel isolating. She shows the joys of community with others, and the struggles too, and underscores the importance of inviting others into your life. Melanie is quite funny, authentic and easy to read

  21. 4 out of 5

    Keisha

    This book was just what my momma heart needed. So much truth weaved with lots of laughter and tears. Melanie's way of writing is easy and fun to read. She gives hope and challenges you all at once!

  22. 5 out of 5

    Caity Gill

    Hilarious and accurate.

  23. 4 out of 5

    Jill

    The best mom book I have ever read. Humourous, insightful. Truthful.

  24. 4 out of 5

    Erica

    It's not just about making mom friends. It's about being a woman and surviving and thriving as a mom, and teaching her full potential as a woman of God, not "just a mom ."

  25. 4 out of 5

    Bridget

    Cute book that made me laugh out loud sometimes. Great for any mom who is feeling lonely. I want to be friends with Melanie! Just got a little old by the end.

  26. 5 out of 5

    Becky Duff

    An entertaining look at women and how to build female friendships with other women and moms.

  27. 5 out of 5

    Sarah

    ‘Get out there all you geeks and weirdos. The world is waiting and you are fabulous.’ Ever found yourself making awkward small talk with other mothers at the park? Well this book really was a breath of fresh air. Friendships with other women have always been important to me and the title of this book really caught my attention. ‘Women Are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends’ is a catchy provocative title that really encapsulates the essence of what the book is about. This ‘Get out there all you geeks and weirdos. The world is waiting and you are fabulous.’ Ever found yourself making awkward small talk with other mothers at the park? Well this book really was a breath of fresh air. Friendships with other women have always been important to me and the title of this book really caught my attention. ‘Women Are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends’ is a catchy provocative title that really encapsulates the essence of what the book is about. This book was recently released by Zondervan this month, and it is funny. Really funny. It’s a light refreshing read, but more than that, it touches on the sometimes complicated topic of female friendship, honestly putting into words what many of us have found in motherhood – that we need ‘momlationships’. In this book, Dale highlights the importance of mothers doing life together, journeying to each other, ‘finding our people and being other people’s people, and learning how to bless each other and not destroy each other’. This book is both humorous and honest. Sometimes the humour seemed a little over the top. I mean, I know that I can be clumsy, but is anyone really that clumsy? Sometimes humour itself can be a mask. But Dale does share vulnerably with her readers about her years as a new mother navigating for the first time the world of playdates, ‘mommy wars’ and social comparisons. She gives practical advice and tips for forming relationships that go deeper. Forging authentic friendships with other mothers requires intentionality. We are so busy after children come along, and friendships with other parents can be complicated by the fact that we all have different parenting styles. Have you found this? Many mothers feel alone in our individualized society, but it doesn’t have to be this way. ‘We don’t lack food, clean water, or clothing, but we lack relationships. Whereas my friends in northern Uganda reside in small mud homes and live life together, outside, as a community, gathering at the borehole for water, working their gardens side by side, and looking out for each other’s children, we live in elaborate homes with multiple rooms and water that comes out our own faucets. We drive our cars into garages and close the doors behind us, and we can go days and weeks without interacting with the neighbors unless we’re intentional about making friends. And while I will continue to champion the orphans and widows whom I love, I’ve realized that it’s no less noble to reach out to the hurting moms and kids right in my own community. If we can learn how to develop real, soul-soothing relationships, there’s no stopping what we can do together for our kids, our families, and the world. But first we have to stop being scary and scared of each other. (Melanie Dale, Women Are Scary)’ ‘Women are Scary’ is authored by the very likable Melanie Dale, who is a wife and minivan driving mother of three children, one biological and two adopted from across the globe. She describes herself as a ‘total weirdo who stinks at small talk’. Her laugh is a combination honk-snort, and it’s so bad that people have moved away from her in the movie theater. She adores sci-fi and superheroes and is terrified of Pinterest. If you are a Doctor Who fan, then this book is definitely for you! There are many references to Doctor Who in ‘Women Are Scary’. Melanie writes from a Christian perspective but this book isn’t just for Christians. In fact, any mother could receive something from this book as we all need relationships with other women. Dale blogs at Unexpected.org about motherhood, orphan care, adoption, and sometimes poo. She’s passionate about the power of people partnering together to make a difference in the world and loves her work with Children’s Hope Chest on long-term development projects rooted in relationships. Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It provides light hearted yet concrete advice to mothers of young children who might be feeling a little isolated. Check out this clip about her new book.

  28. 4 out of 5

    Nicole King

    This book was not exactly what I had expected. I was thinking it would be a little edgier with stories of how to deal with the mean girls/women that always seem to be at school/work/volunteer groups. Instead it was a tutorial on making friends with other moms, self help to get over fears as well as friend break ups, and a memoir all blended together. It was nostalgic for me since it concentrates on mothers with young children and mine are 8 and 11. No more days of play dates in the park or libra This book was not exactly what I had expected. I was thinking it would be a little edgier with stories of how to deal with the mean girls/women that always seem to be at school/work/volunteer groups. Instead it was a tutorial on making friends with other moms, self help to get over fears as well as friend break ups, and a memoir all blended together. It was nostalgic for me since it concentrates on mothers with young children and mine are 8 and 11. No more days of play dates in the park or library for me. Even though it was not what I expected I enjoyed it. She has a quirky sense of humor and used Sci Fi as well as Pop culture references which made it all more real and less preachy. She also shared personal stories about infertility, adoption and, broken friendships. It was a light book that I could read on my phone in an attempt to reduce my Facebook/Candy Crush consumption and for that purpose it worked perfectly.

  29. 4 out of 5

    Victoria W.

    Women are Scary is supposed to get your attention, make you question, make you laugh but like most of the relationships it's describing, at the core is something necessary that has a lot of heart. I had intended to write this review before our second little arrived, instead I ended up remembering it's pages as we spent our week in the NICU waiting for our little one to gain enough strength to come home. Women are Scary is a truth many moms can face with the so-called "mommy wars" and the general i Women are Scary is supposed to get your attention, make you question, make you laugh but like most of the relationships it's describing, at the core is something necessary that has a lot of heart. I had intended to write this review before our second little arrived, instead I ended up remembering it's pages as we spent our week in the NICU waiting for our little one to gain enough strength to come home. Women are Scary is a truth many moms can face with the so-called "mommy wars" and the general insecurities that can accompany gaining responsibility for the life of a helpless human being. Since welcome our oldest two years ago I've found myself battling PPD alongside the general trying to unravel just how one does make friends with other mommies. I long ago admitted I am an introvert and while I can make small talk, insecurities about social interactions along with an inability to shut up about my passions (sci-fi, adoption, counselling issues and the church) tend to make friendships a hard won achievement. Melanie Dale's book is brilliant in it's simplicity. I'm guessing many moms reading this will probably not be overwhelmed by new knowledge (unless teething is currently underway at home in which case most information could be considered overwhelming). Most of this book is reiterating information most of us already know but we've forgotten or simply have decided it no longer applies now that we've moved into adulthood. For me, the strength of Melanie's book is her presentation. Here is a book about friendship that feels like sitting down with a friend over coffee (or tea if you'rea dreaded tea drinker like myself ;) ). I recognize that not all readers will resonate with her humour, sci-fi references, etc. . . but it's just like in real life - some people are never meant to be more than first base acquaintances and that's okay (don't worry sports don't factor too heavily into this book, even I was able to follow all the references). In today's social media driven culture, it is refreshing to hear someone stop and point out that not everyone is going to be invited into every area of one another's life - and that's okay! Between her three bases of relationship to her chapter on saying goodbye, these practical tips and insights read as a breath of fresh air to a society that feels driven to add their brother's best friend from third grade onto various social networks. After reading Melanie's book I had the chance to put some of her advice into practice in the unique setting of the NICU. While not an obvious first choice for striking up a conversation there was a captive audience of moms in the same boat we were in - having a child needing help - who weren't able to go anywhere else. So I did as Melanie suggested - I started with a hello. Here's the amazing thing. I don't think I found life long friends but we did talk, for a few days we shared life, and in the end the other moms weren't so scary after all. I would recommend this book for all practical, down to earth moms who are lonely and looking for some perspective. Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookLook Bloggers book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

  30. 4 out of 5

    Niki Overstreet

    Hello again, savvy savers! Today finds us with a new product review, and this time the it’s, Women are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends, by Melanie Dale. In this book, Dale highlights the importance of mothers doing life together, journeying to each other, ‘finding our people and being other people’s people, and learning how to bless each other and not destroy each other’. This book is both humorous and honest. Sometimes the humor seemed a little over the top. I mean, Hello again, savvy savers! Today finds us with a new product review, and this time the it’s, Women are Scary: The Totally Awkward Adventure of Finding Mom Friends, by Melanie Dale. In this book, Dale highlights the importance of mothers doing life together, journeying to each other, ‘finding our people and being other people’s people, and learning how to bless each other and not destroy each other’. This book is both humorous and honest. Sometimes the humor seemed a little over the top. I mean, I know that I can be clumsy, but is anyone really that clumsy? Sometimes humor itself can be a mask. But Dale does share vulnerably with her readers about her years as a new mother navigating for the first time the world of play-dates, ‘mommy wars’ and social comparisons. She gives practical advice and tips for forming relationships that go deeper. Forging authentic friendships with other mothers requires intentional, purposed, heart-felt reaching out. We are so busy after children come along, and friendships with other parents can be complicated by the fact that we all have different parenting styles. Have you found this? Many mothers feel alone in our individualized society, but it doesn’t have to be this way. ‘Women are Scary’ is authored by the very likable Melanie Dale, who is a wife and minivan driving mother of three children, one biological and two adopted from across the globe. She describes herself as a ‘total weirdo who stinks at small talk’. Her laugh is a combination honk-snort, and it’s so bad that people have moved away from her in the movie theater. She adores sci-fi and superheroes, and is terrified of Pinterest. If you are a Doctor Who fan, then this book is definitely for you! There are many references to Doctor Who in ‘Women Are Scary’. Melanie writes from a Christian perspective but this book isn’t just for Christians. In fact, any mother could receive something from this book as we all need relationships with other women, which makes this book an awesome option for Mother’s Day shopping. Moreover, Dale blogs at Unexpected.org about motherhood, orphan care, adoption, and sometimes poo. She’s passionate about the power of people partnering together to make a difference in the world and loves her work with Children’s Hope Chest on long-term development projects rooted in relationships. Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It provides light hearting narrative, yet concrete advice to mothers of young children who might be feeling a little isolated. Check out this clip about her new book. Enjoy! I received this book as a review copy from Blogging For Books. All opinion expressed are that of my own.

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