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This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship—written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas. In The Ex-Girlfriend of M This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship—written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas. In The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend, advice columnist Maddy Court (a.k.a. Xena Worrier Princess) answers anonymous queries from lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders. Illustrated by comics artist Kelsey Wroten and based on Court's viral zine of the same name, this book features never-before-published letters and responses about first loves, heartbreak, coming out, and queer friendship—all answered with the warmth and honesty of the gay big sister you wish you had. • BY QUEERS, FOR QUEERS: This book was written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders. The questions reflect real experiences that aren't often represented in the media, and the answers offer an important reminder that loving ourselves takes patience, effort, and the support of our friends and communities. • EXCITING DEBUT AUTHOR: In 2018, Maddy Court made the leap from creating niche lesbian memes on Instagram to writing and distributing a series of zines. Never preachy or dismissive, Court offers advice that is sympathetic and straightforward—it's equal parts refreshing vulnerability and remarkable wisdom. • GORGEOUS ILLUSTRATION: Kelsey Wroten's art brings the letters to life, immersing the reader in all the joys and disappointments of the contributors who wrote in from all over the world. In addition to the traditional illustrations, each chapter features a paneled mini-comic that speaks to the different themes. • AMAZING GUEST EXPERTS: Because one queer cannot possible hold all the answers, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend also includes advice from an incredible roster of guest experts. Author and comedian Samantha Irby; musicians JD Samson and Ellen Kempner; and writers and activists Tyler Ford, Kalyn Heffernan, Lola Pellegrino, and Mey Rude all tackle questions on long-distance breakups, jealousy, love triangles, making friends, and more. Perfect for: • Lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders with questions about dating, friendship, and life • Fans of the Ex-Girlfriend zine series and followers of @Xenaworrierprincess • Fans of Kelsey Wroten's graphic novels and art


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This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship—written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas. In The Ex-Girlfriend of M This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship—written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your feelings as you read through these quintessentially queer dating dilemmas. In The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend, advice columnist Maddy Court (a.k.a. Xena Worrier Princess) answers anonymous queries from lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders. Illustrated by comics artist Kelsey Wroten and based on Court's viral zine of the same name, this book features never-before-published letters and responses about first loves, heartbreak, coming out, and queer friendship—all answered with the warmth and honesty of the gay big sister you wish you had. • BY QUEERS, FOR QUEERS: This book was written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders. The questions reflect real experiences that aren't often represented in the media, and the answers offer an important reminder that loving ourselves takes patience, effort, and the support of our friends and communities. • EXCITING DEBUT AUTHOR: In 2018, Maddy Court made the leap from creating niche lesbian memes on Instagram to writing and distributing a series of zines. Never preachy or dismissive, Court offers advice that is sympathetic and straightforward—it's equal parts refreshing vulnerability and remarkable wisdom. • GORGEOUS ILLUSTRATION: Kelsey Wroten's art brings the letters to life, immersing the reader in all the joys and disappointments of the contributors who wrote in from all over the world. In addition to the traditional illustrations, each chapter features a paneled mini-comic that speaks to the different themes. • AMAZING GUEST EXPERTS: Because one queer cannot possible hold all the answers, The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend also includes advice from an incredible roster of guest experts. Author and comedian Samantha Irby; musicians JD Samson and Ellen Kempner; and writers and activists Tyler Ford, Kalyn Heffernan, Lola Pellegrino, and Mey Rude all tackle questions on long-distance breakups, jealousy, love triangles, making friends, and more. Perfect for: • Lesbian, bisexual, and queer women and people of marginalized genders with questions about dating, friendship, and life • Fans of the Ex-Girlfriend zine series and followers of @Xenaworrierprincess • Fans of Kelsey Wroten's graphic novels and art

30 review for The Ex-Girlfriend of My Ex-Girlfriend Is My Girlfriend: Advice on Queer Dating, Love, and Friendship

  1. 5 out of 5

    Althea

    A really valuable, heart-warming and affirming read for queer people of all ages! I absolutely loved the illustrations in this and the advice within is sure to resonate with all readers, no matter their sexuality or gender! Thanks to Netgalley and Chronicle Books for an e-ARC in return for an honest review!

  2. 5 out of 5

    Sasha

    Delightful! Read this in a day. Basically like reading the advice column in sweet queer teen magazine except those who write in range from being in their teens to their 40s. Lots of good wisdom in here, though definitely a few pieces of advice I disagreed with, but duh! We all deal with and interpret situations differently. Also the illustrations are lovely. 3.5 stars!

  3. 4 out of 5

    Anwen Hayward

    I really enjoyed this one. Most of the advice in it is heartfelt and sensitive, and the addition of guest experts to cover the more intersectional parts of the queer experience was an excellent idea (although some of the guest experts did seem a little more interested in self-promotion or, in one case, being quite unkind to the person who asked for advice; I would have liked a bit more editing in a few of those.) The range of topics covered was pretty enormous, considering the relatively small s I really enjoyed this one. Most of the advice in it is heartfelt and sensitive, and the addition of guest experts to cover the more intersectional parts of the queer experience was an excellent idea (although some of the guest experts did seem a little more interested in self-promotion or, in one case, being quite unkind to the person who asked for advice; I would have liked a bit more editing in a few of those.) The range of topics covered was pretty enormous, considering the relatively small size of this book, and I think most queer women or people of marginalised genders will probably recognise at least one of their own dating experiences in this one. Absolutely recommend this one for any queer woman or femme who's ever wondered if they're the outlier for sharing 8 ex girlfriends with their housemate, or who just wants to feel Seen (TM).

  4. 4 out of 5

    Zoe Jackson

    I’ve followed Maddy on Instagram for a couple of years and was excited to see this book pop up on NetGalley. In a book version of her zine series, the author answers questions from Queer women and non-binary people on love, life and different facets of moving through the world as an LGBT+ person. Her advice is heartfelt and clear, drawing on her own personal experiences. I appreciated the use of guest contributors to cover areas that they had more personal knowledge of, real effort has been made I’ve followed Maddy on Instagram for a couple of years and was excited to see this book pop up on NetGalley. In a book version of her zine series, the author answers questions from Queer women and non-binary people on love, life and different facets of moving through the world as an LGBT+ person. Her advice is heartfelt and clear, drawing on her own personal experiences. I appreciated the use of guest contributors to cover areas that they had more personal knowledge of, real effort has been made here to be intersectional and not to speak over the voices of different groups. Colourful illustrations throughout add to the collection and make it a real pleasure to read. I’d recommend this book to Queer women and non-binary people, especially those who are either feeling stuck in a rut or who are closeted/ newly out. Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher for providing me with an advance copy of this book in exchange for an honest review.

  5. 5 out of 5

    Vicky

    3.5 ⭐ Notable - a read-in-one-sitting kind of book - design/layout with illustrations + the colors + the paper quality all calmed me into feeling like I do when I walk into an air-conditioned museum, very clean, enough space to breathe - still as enjoyable as the original printed + stapled zine copies, which I used to read slowly, like one problem at a time - "structured activities remove a lot of the obstacles" (and stressors/flakiness of dating) p.29 - went into a mini JD Samson google search, fact- 3.5 ⭐ Notable - a read-in-one-sitting kind of book - design/layout with illustrations + the colors + the paper quality all calmed me into feeling like I do when I walk into an air-conditioned museum, very clean, enough space to breathe - still as enjoyable as the original printed + stapled zine copies, which I used to read slowly, like one problem at a time - "structured activities remove a lot of the obstacles" (and stressors/flakiness of dating) p.29 - went into a mini JD Samson google search, fact-checking pronouns, watching a "My Place" video of her apt on YouTube, verifying once again to confirm JD was not in Itty Bitty Titty Committee - "One of the most terrifying things about being human is that the people we love are not obligated to stay with us." p. 53 - I was so taken aback by Samantha Irby's response/guest "expert" advice to someone struggling with jealousy/insecurity that it was really the worst advice in this book, like it really stood out as not supportive with a weird paragraph of accusatory tones about this person lying to their therapist, as if they've been dragging this out for too long, etc. that didn't even encourage introspection to resolve these feelings at their source and proposed cutting it off instead. I really did not understand how this was featured/included. - "I usually keep a wall up and can predict when the end is coming" p. 77 - "Saying 'no' can be a litmus test for the people in our lives." p. 88 - "the PROBLEM is, so much of what I've absorbed about how to deal with heartbreak revolves around learning to see the flaws in your former partner and resenting their missteps" (ok and here I learned that this was BAD, lolol, well, I don't do this 100%, but I utilize focusing on the negative aspects to remind myself that it was for the best in non-romantic situations as well) - "knowing how to be alone is an amazing asset as you begin to make friends and date again. It means you won't settle for people who treat you poorly." p. 94 - I appreciated Ellen Kempner's guest response about how, if you feel like you are putting in more effort to maintain a friendship, it's not always that the other friend isn't interested in remaining friends but they could be lacking initiative for all kinds of reasons and the main moment to reconsider it is if you get in touch and they routinely do not try to make any time for you. This was reassuring to read because often I feel like the one who is not AS in touch because I don't necessarily need the same amount/frequency of social time. Or—longer gaps can take place. Or—I can feel relieved at the gesture of making plans together and mutually agreeing to cancel/postpone. - being a non-binary lesbian, being valid + also really appreciated Tyler Ford's guest response here, esp. the list of questions AND esp. how it doesn't have to be necessary to precisely define/articulate one's identity, which was reassuring for me, because p. 125 - "It's unfair not to give someone the chance to correct their behavior, or to know you completely" p. 130 - lol the question from the Capricorn about them financially supporting their girlfriend for 3 years was—smh—. I was very judgmental at the situation. - "pragmatic midwestern lesbian" - "Relationships push us to uncover the most beautiful and most agonizing parts of ourselves" p. 152, also great guest response by Kalyn Rose Heffernan to a chronically-ill wheelchair user in London - love the bright pink cover

  6. 5 out of 5

    Gillian

    The Ex-Girlfriend of my Ex-Girlfriend is my Girlfriend is a book borne out of a queer zine that focuses on advice for LGBTQ+ folks. Organized in different chapters based on general themes with multiple Q&As in each section, this book reads like a compilation of advice columns on romance, identity, sex and friendship. Reading this made me appreciate being queer in all of its messy, complex, weird and beautiful ways. It also reminded me of all the ways we as queer and trans people have things so mu The Ex-Girlfriend of my Ex-Girlfriend is my Girlfriend is a book borne out of a queer zine that focuses on advice for LGBTQ+ folks. Organized in different chapters based on general themes with multiple Q&As in each section, this book reads like a compilation of advice columns on romance, identity, sex and friendship. Reading this made me appreciate being queer in all of its messy, complex, weird and beautiful ways. It also reminded me of all the ways we as queer and trans people have things so much harder than our cishet counterparts. At the same time, it provided me with hope and pride for all the ways in which we re-write the social scripts to find our forms of happiness. I appreciated how different questions were answered by different people, depending on their identity and levels of experience/expertise. While many heavy themes were explored throughout, the book remained light and hopeful!

  7. 4 out of 5

    Geoff

    A fun, snarky, and heartfelt book of advice columns for Lesbians. I'm not the target audience for this book, but besides the fact that it has one of the best titles of any book I've read this year, it works for two reasons. First, it is fascinating to learn more about the social norms, stages, fears, hopes, in jokes, and expectations of a group of people that's different form me. And second, it's a great reminder for everyone that people who are different from you aren't that different from you. A fun, snarky, and heartfelt book of advice columns for Lesbians. I'm not the target audience for this book, but besides the fact that it has one of the best titles of any book I've read this year, it works for two reasons. First, it is fascinating to learn more about the social norms, stages, fears, hopes, in jokes, and expectations of a group of people that's different form me. And second, it's a great reminder for everyone that people who are different from you aren't that different from you. We are all human and love is love. **Thanks to the author, publisher, and NetGalley for a free copy in exchange for an honest review.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Sara

    A must-read, particularly for queer women and non-binary people! This book talks for itself - advice columns about love, life and queer existence. The inclusion of "guest speakers" is a great addition for inclusivity and allowed for the best advice-giving possible! If it won't help you personally (although, it probably will), it will at least give you a better insight to some problems other people may have, and think about how you could better interact with them. A must-read, particularly for queer women and non-binary people! This book talks for itself - advice columns about love, life and queer existence. The inclusion of "guest speakers" is a great addition for inclusivity and allowed for the best advice-giving possible! If it won't help you personally (although, it probably will), it will at least give you a better insight to some problems other people may have, and think about how you could better interact with them.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Maia

    A dating advice book specifically for queers. I don't know how many people will sit down to read this front to back, but it's a very fun book to flip through and read in bits and pieces. Written in an advice-column style (the questions are real ones sent in by readers) with very nice illustrations. A dating advice book specifically for queers. I don't know how many people will sit down to read this front to back, but it's a very fun book to flip through and read in bits and pieces. Written in an advice-column style (the questions are real ones sent in by readers) with very nice illustrations.

  10. 5 out of 5

    Ellie Stitzer

    this was a sweet read, like sitting in the bathtub and flipping through a magazine while drinking a glass of wine

  11. 4 out of 5

    Grace

    Some actual tough love, hard core advice! Also the illustrations are just so good!

  12. 4 out of 5

    Emma

    what a sweet and funny book with so many good pieces of advice that made me think about my own life! and the illustrations are so beautiful. maddy had answered my question in one of the ex-gf zines and it's really cool that her writing was helpful then and continues to be now, even when that question i asked years ago is so incredibly far from my life now! what a sweet and funny book with so many good pieces of advice that made me think about my own life! and the illustrations are so beautiful. maddy had answered my question in one of the ex-gf zines and it's really cool that her writing was helpful then and continues to be now, even when that question i asked years ago is so incredibly far from my life now!

  13. 4 out of 5

    Pearl

    I won this book as part of a goodreads giveaway that I entered because I thought the title was funny and I though the odds of me winning it were low. But I did so here we are. I had never heard of the zine or advice column that it was based off of but I had fun reading it. First off the book is very nice to hold, the little designs on the cover are raised and it’s very tactile. The art in the book is inventive and whimsical and really goes well with the contents of the book. The book can definitel I won this book as part of a goodreads giveaway that I entered because I thought the title was funny and I though the odds of me winning it were low. But I did so here we are. I had never heard of the zine or advice column that it was based off of but I had fun reading it. First off the book is very nice to hold, the little designs on the cover are raised and it’s very tactile. The art in the book is inventive and whimsical and really goes well with the contents of the book. The book can definitely be read piecemeal or straight through or thumbed through in search of specific advice. I read it straight through just because I knew I would forget to post this if I didn’t. The advice given throughout but the author or the various guest authors is pretty solid throughout. My main complaint being that some of the stories and thus subsequent advice were uber niche. There were a lot of more general but still specific stories who’s advice could be taken for a variety of situations. But some of the more niche stories kinda just lost me. Which is just possibly just a byproduct of how advice columns work but I digress. I didn’t really care for final story/advice combo, it felt like a weird way to end the book, but I absolutely loved the last illustration. It’s a fun book, I had a good time reading it and it will likely be a good reference book in the future

  14. 4 out of 5

    Jessica

    This is a wonderful book written in the Dear Abby Q&A style of advice columns. It’s also filled with adorable doodles. The advice in this book is outstanding. No matter your age, sexuality, gender, or relationship status, you will learn something from this book. It is very positive and uplifting, and tackles many different topics in useful and fun way. My only gripe is that some of the pages are printed in hot pink on a white background and they were difficult to look at, in my opinion. I receiv This is a wonderful book written in the Dear Abby Q&A style of advice columns. It’s also filled with adorable doodles. The advice in this book is outstanding. No matter your age, sexuality, gender, or relationship status, you will learn something from this book. It is very positive and uplifting, and tackles many different topics in useful and fun way. My only gripe is that some of the pages are printed in hot pink on a white background and they were difficult to look at, in my opinion. I received a copy of this book from a Goodreads giveaway.

  15. 5 out of 5

    Patri

    mega-inclusive, meaningfully instructive and sympathetic where it matters, a sapphic-specific solution-issuing mission that could surely stretch out into multiple installments. a wide batch of bright-eyed and blunt advice/warnings/words to the wise that a bunch of us will find bookmark-worthy, adorned with bubblegum-hued artwork to boot. thank you to netgalley and chronicle books for kindly passing on this arc! 💫

  16. 4 out of 5

    Miesha Wilson Headen

    Even though I’m straight, I loved this advice book and found it engrossing (the advice was wise and unexpected, not trite) and personally informative (bad breakups are bad breakups). I feel more informed about and sympathetic to the queer community, especially how they cope with being a minority. Lastly, the book is pretty; I loved the color and graphics.

  17. 4 out of 5

    Lilly K

    Loved this book! As a queer person living in the rural northwoods of Wisconsin, I can confirm that the advice is applicable to real life situations and is delivered with a beautiful mix of compassion and humor. 10/10 stars don’t cha know

  18. 4 out of 5

    Ceris

    Just ripped through this book in one night, it was fucking delightful

  19. 4 out of 5

    Becca

    I’m not the intended audience of this, but Samantha Irby led me here. And I love advice.

  20. 5 out of 5

    hanna

    loooove a book that forces me to realize things about myself

  21. 4 out of 5

    Teddy Goetz

    Quick, fluffy read that feels like spending an evening in a living room hanging with queer community. Read in one sitting.

  22. 5 out of 5

    Nikki

    After reading another review that said this was LGBTQ+ version of Ms. Manners, I was hooked. And, they were right! I loved the short stories, the advice, the amazing graphics. All of it is simply impeccable. It is something that I will keep as a reference and hand out as a recommendation. Thanks to #NetGalley and the publishers of #TheExGirlfriendofMyExGirlfriendIsMyGirlfriend for the ARC in exchange for the honest review.

  23. 5 out of 5

    m.

    This was a cute book that helps give advise for sapphics in terms of dating from sapphics who are still in the closet to sapphics that have had well developed relationships. Date(s) read: 01/06/2021

  24. 4 out of 5

    Inês Lopes da Costa

    What first attracted me to this book was the humorous (to me at least) title. The book conveys exactly what the author promises: advice on queer dating. It's divided on six chapters that cover many topics that are usually on everyone's minds like crushes, coming out, heartbreak, family and friends and so on. A great choice on the author's part was to admit her shortcomings on specific subjects, recurring to guest experts to enrich and fulfil these knowledge gaps for a more complete and informed re What first attracted me to this book was the humorous (to me at least) title. The book conveys exactly what the author promises: advice on queer dating. It's divided on six chapters that cover many topics that are usually on everyone's minds like crushes, coming out, heartbreak, family and friends and so on. A great choice on the author's part was to admit her shortcomings on specific subjects, recurring to guest experts to enrich and fulfil these knowledge gaps for a more complete and informed reading experience. The idea that what is described is based on many people's experiences makes it all more relatable and personable. The illustrations were very cute and wholesome and the writing was clear and straightforward. However, despite this book valiant efforts, it falls short in my eyes in a deeply important aspect: Diversity. Don't get me wrong there was a lot of diverse stories, diverse backgrounds, diverse ages, but then again not enough. One or two stories about bisexual women and even so, one wasn't about a bisexual person per se; one story about a disabled woman, maybe three stories about non-binary, gender non confirming people, one or two with trans women, etc. I didn't catch any reference to stories that came from queer women of colour for example. Even if there were too few examples of diversity in my opinion their stories were there and for that I'm very pleased since it shows how diverse LGBT people are and even with shared experiences some struggles are more prominent within a specific group. Overall was a great experience and I look forward to it's publication and to more books about diverse queer women! I downloaded the e-ARC on NetGalley (thank you!)

  25. 5 out of 5

    Bailey

    The title is all too real. This book is like reading one of those magazine advice columns, except everyone who writes in to ask for advice is gay and the advice column writers are also gay and give advice that is both heartwarming and keeps it real. As a non-binary lesbian, I found this title really affirming and a great resource for queer women and non-binary people. The LGBTQ community is so cis gay male-focused, and this book is a great divergence from that norm that uplifts the unique struggl The title is all too real. This book is like reading one of those magazine advice columns, except everyone who writes in to ask for advice is gay and the advice column writers are also gay and give advice that is both heartwarming and keeps it real. As a non-binary lesbian, I found this title really affirming and a great resource for queer women and non-binary people. The LGBTQ community is so cis gay male-focused, and this book is a great divergence from that norm that uplifts the unique struggles queer women face—and gives some great advice in return. In addition to the author Maddy Court, there are also several guest contributors who add a bit of variety to the writing and shows the author's commitment to intersectionality and not speaking over or for groups she does not belong to. Additionally, Kelsey Wroten has beautiful illustrations throughout the book that really adds something to the aesthetic. I genuinely think this book is a great resource for all ages. As someone in my early twenties and out for over a third of my life, the section about coming out was not as helpful to me, but the sections on dating and heartbreak felt very poignant. This would particularly make a great gift for a young queer person, as I think this is a book someone could keep coming back to as their struggles and questions shift over time. Thank you to NetGalley and the publisher, Chronicle Books, for the ARC in exchange for an honest review. This book releases in the U.S. on May 18, 2021.

  26. 4 out of 5

    Smith Cash

    Good day to you all.. I'm here to share my experience to everybody around the world because I know that someone out there needs this today. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and everything was fine with us that we don't have to fight or quarrel for anything. My girlfriend got a new job and after 2 months of her new job, I noticed some changes in her. Few weeks before my birthday, my girlfriend broke up with me for another man. I never expected such from her. I was in severe pain and neede Good day to you all.. I'm here to share my experience to everybody around the world because I know that someone out there needs this today. I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years and everything was fine with us that we don't have to fight or quarrel for anything. My girlfriend got a new job and after 2 months of her new job, I noticed some changes in her. Few weeks before my birthday, my girlfriend broke up with me for another man. I never expected such from her. I was in severe pain and needed help urgently. I searched for help online and found Lord Zakuza who is a spell caster. I told him everything I was going through and he understood me well. He told me that he will prepare a love spell for me that will get my girlfriend back within 48 hours and he explained to me how it was going to be done and I agreed. He prepared the love spell for me and my girlfriend returned back to me begging me for forgiveness within 48 hours. I was shocked and happy and I accepted her back.. We are back together and everything is going fine. I want to thank Lord Zakuza for his help by sharing this testimony online for other people to find help too in any area of their lives. Get in touch with him with the below details.. For he's good at what he does. WhatsApp/Call/Text +1 (740) 573-9483 Email: [email protected]

  27. 5 out of 5

    Laura

    I love Maddy’s stuff on Instagram, and this is more of the same (funny and very queer), but she’s also very good at giving advice! Like many great advice columnists, she reveals a lot about herself as she does so. This book is relatable, funny, and heartbreaking, and it will be helpful to a lot of people. I wished I could highlight huge portions of it (I was reading it in Adobe Digital Editions, so I couldn’t). There’s so much about internalized homophobia and being awkward and insecure. Maddy i I love Maddy’s stuff on Instagram, and this is more of the same (funny and very queer), but she’s also very good at giving advice! Like many great advice columnists, she reveals a lot about herself as she does so. This book is relatable, funny, and heartbreaking, and it will be helpful to a lot of people. I wished I could highlight huge portions of it (I was reading it in Adobe Digital Editions, so I couldn’t). There’s so much about internalized homophobia and being awkward and insecure. Maddy is very understanding and gentle, even when chiding people for their choices — she often admits she probably would have done the exact same dumb or unhealthy thing. The illustrations and design of the book are also great. Also, there are guest experts! I won’t ruin who, but it’s very cool. My one critique is that, as fun as having guest experts is, sometimes their advice vibe is wildly different from Maddy’s, which can be a little jarring. I definitely kind of skimmed parts, but with a mind to hopefully return to them when they’re more relevant to me. I would totally buy this book to own a physical copy. Overall, this book would make a great gift for a baby gay -- or for yourself, even if you’ve been gay for ages! Thanks so much to Netgalley for the eARC.

  28. 4 out of 5

    mili

    8/10 A really insightful adorable book I’d recommend everyone to read. Not just queer people. Some of these questions are really random but most are very relatable and my younger self would’ve been very happy to find help within this book. I did overcome some of these problems one way or another by myself but I have a feeling not many people are lucky enough. These problems are very real and Maddie among 7 guest experts (and, of course, Kelsey as an illustrator) try their best to help as much as t 8/10 A really insightful adorable book I’d recommend everyone to read. Not just queer people. Some of these questions are really random but most are very relatable and my younger self would’ve been very happy to find help within this book. I did overcome some of these problems one way or another by myself but I have a feeling not many people are lucky enough. These problems are very real and Maddie among 7 guest experts (and, of course, Kelsey as an illustrator) try their best to help as much as they can (through their own experience or not). Sometimes it’s sad, sometimes it’s funny but it always is kind and helpful. Now that I don’t have similar problems anymore and couldn’t relate to them in this moment, I read this with happiness knowing what I did was right. And even if it wasn’t - nobody’s perfect, ey. The book made me especially grateful for having an amazing girlfriend (ily bb)* with whom I can talk about everything and anything. I think this book will got some people seriously thinking so, as I said in the beginning, I recommend it to everyone. ARC provided in exchange for an honest review. * yes, you, jess. don’t cringe too hard pls <3

  29. 4 out of 5

    Natalia

    “When‌ ‌you're‌ ‌in‌ ‌love‌ ‌for‌ ‌the‌ ‌first‌ ‌time,‌ ‌everything‌ ‌is‌ ‌THE‌ ‌MOST.‌ ‌Your‌ ‌ love‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌most‌ ‌profound.‌ ‌The‌ ‌sex‌ ‌you’re‌ ‌having‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌BEST.‌ ‌No‌ ‌ relationship‌ ‌will‌ ‌ever‌ ‌compare.”‌ This‌ ‌book‌ ‌was‌ ‌very‌ ‌informative,‌ ‌Maddy‌ ‌is‌ ‌a‌ ‌very‌ ‌talented‌ ‌writer.‌ ‌All‌ ‌the‌ ‌ questions‌ ‌asked‌ ‌and‌ ‌answered‌ ‌in‌ ‌this‌ ‌book‌ ‌feel‌ ‌very‌ ‌personal‌ ‌and‌ ‌ real.‌ ‌I‌ ‌don't‌ ‌think‌ ‌it‌ ‌matters‌ ‌what‌ ‌your‌ ‌sexuality‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌while‌ “When‌ ‌you're‌ ‌in‌ ‌love‌ ‌for‌ ‌the‌ ‌first‌ ‌time,‌ ‌everything‌ ‌is‌ ‌THE‌ ‌MOST.‌ ‌Your‌ ‌ love‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌most‌ ‌profound.‌ ‌The‌ ‌sex‌ ‌you’re‌ ‌having‌ ‌is‌ ‌the‌ ‌BEST.‌ ‌No‌ ‌ relationship‌ ‌will‌ ‌ever‌ ‌compare.”‌ This‌ ‌book‌ ‌was‌ ‌very‌ ‌informative,‌ ‌Maddy‌ ‌is‌ ‌a‌ ‌very‌ ‌talented‌ ‌writer.‌ ‌All‌ ‌the‌ ‌ questions‌ ‌asked‌ ‌and‌ ‌answered‌ ‌in‌ ‌this‌ ‌book‌ ‌feel‌ ‌very‌ ‌personal‌ ‌and‌ ‌ real.‌ ‌I‌ ‌don't‌ ‌think‌ ‌it‌ ‌matters‌ ‌what‌ ‌your‌ ‌sexuality‌ ‌you‌ ‌are‌ ‌while‌ ‌reading‌ ‌ this,‌ ‌the‌ ‌advice‌ ‌given‌ ‌could‌ ‌relate‌ ‌to‌ ‌anyone‌ ‌and‌ ‌also‌ ‌help‌ ‌people‌ ‌ understand‌ ‌the‌ ‌wide‌ ‌world‌ ‌of‌ ‌Lgbtqia+.‌ ‌It‌ ‌is‌ ‌very‌ ‌heartfelt‌ ‌with‌ ‌beautiful‌ ‌ illustrations‌ ‌throughout.‌ ‌At‌ ‌times‌ ‌it‌ ‌was‌ ‌amusing,‌ ‌funny‌ ‌and‌ ‌definitely‌ ‌ enjoyable‌ ‌the‌ ‌way‌ ‌Maddy‌ ‌and‌ ‌guest’s‌ ‌give‌ ‌advice.‌ ‌But‌ ‌still‌ ‌a‌ ‌very‌ ‌ serious‌ ‌read‌ ‌that‌ ‌had‌ ‌me‌ ‌gripped.‌

  30. 5 out of 5

    Maddie Haughton

    I’m glad this book exists for a number of reasons. It is hard to know what to do in situations where you feel like you’re the only one struggling and that there is nobody who can relate to what you’re going through. This book proves that is not true and there are people out there who have not only been through similar situations, but who want to be there for anyone who is currently struggling. This book deals with complex emotions and sensitive subjects, and it’s the kind of book that I think ev I’m glad this book exists for a number of reasons. It is hard to know what to do in situations where you feel like you’re the only one struggling and that there is nobody who can relate to what you’re going through. This book proves that is not true and there are people out there who have not only been through similar situations, but who want to be there for anyone who is currently struggling. This book deals with complex emotions and sensitive subjects, and it’s the kind of book that I think every queer new adult should have the chance to read. This is a book that I want to have around to reference, and that I will recommend to my friends, since the advice given in it is thoughtful and comes from people with diverse experience. I received an eARC from NetGalley in exchange for an honest review.

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